Occasionally I will post something that strays from the topic of Fredericksburg or real estate. This is one of those times. I’ve been pondering this for about a week now; well longer than a week. What is Respect? Who deserves Respect? Who do you Respect? Why would you want someone to Respect you? They all seem like pretty simple questions, but I think it gets muddled more times than not.
Respect is defined as the condition of being esteemed or honored; esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability; and to hold in esteem or honor.
So, based off these definitions, who deserves Respect? It seems that people who deserve Respect would be people that have an admirable disposition, or have an accomplishment that you consider outstanding, someone who possesses a skill that you wish you were better at or wish you possessed, or even someone that you look up to as a role model. What is amazing to me is that at no time does the definition of Respect say that you have to automatically Respect someone because they are older than you. And, this is probably a good thing. I can think of plenty of people who are older than me that I have no respect for. There are also plenty of people who are younger than me that I have a great deal of Respect for. I don’t think Respect was ever meant to be pigeon-holed.
Recently I was chastised for not showing an elder enough respect. The reason offered to me to show this person more respect was that they are older than me. They’ve been in their job longer than me. Other people respect them. But is this enough to earn Respect? Am I being asked to Respect them or admire them in a position of authority? I think there is a difference. When someone asks for respect are they really asking to be marveled at and shown some pomp and circumstance? Would you rather earn Respect through your actions and deeds and reputation? Or, do you want to be given insincere appreciation for the mere fact that you were born before someone else?
None of this is to say that I do not Respect my elders; I most certainly do. I have a great Respect for my grandparents, who lived during some amazing points in history, are self-made, and are the leaders of my family. I have a great Respect for many people who happen to be older than me. But, I do not Respect them for being older than me. I Respect them because they are good people, they are teachers in their own right, and they make me a better person. I also Respect many people who are younger than me. I Respect them for their accomplishments, for not being held back by their fears and uncertainty, and for their willingness to share. But to be honest, the older people and the younger people that I Respect have only one difference, their age. So, this is a variable I throw out when determining who I Respect.
I guess what this all boils down to is that I don’t hand out Respect like it’s candy. If someone’s actions and deeds contradict the values that I hold as Respectable, then they don’t make the cut. I’m not going to cheapen my value system so that someone else can have an ego boost. And, at the end of the day, the person I have to Respect the most is myself.
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Tootsie is a tortoiseshell domestic short-hair. She was turned into the SPCA as a stray and is looking for her first permanent home. She prefers a home with a comfortable couch where she can bask in a beam of sunlight. Tootsie likes being groomed. She is good with adults and kids 10 years old and older. She is up-to-date with her shots and is spayed. If you think you can offer Tootsie the stability and love that she so desperately needs, please contact the Fredericksburg SPCA and set an appointment to meet this pretty girl!
First, Halloween is just around the corner. Are you ready to be scared… while helping raise money for a good cause? The Fredericksburg Jaycees are holding their annual Haunted House. The event runs every Friday and Saturday night October 9-October 31. The Haunted House opens at 7pm and closes when everyone is scared to death! This year the Haunted House is located at the old Bogey’s in Central Park. The address is 1380 Central Park Blvd Suite 101 (beside the old Ice Park). Admission is $8 for adults and $5 for children under 12. Money raised by this event goes to help fund Camp Virginia Jaycees, a summer camp open to individuals with developmental and intellectual disabilities of children age 7 thru adults.
Second, the Maize Maze is back and as fabulous as ever! This year Belvedere Plantation’s Fall Festival is featuring the traditional Maize Maze, hayrides and bonfires, pig races, Ye Old Barnyard – a farm animal petting zoo, and the Pumpkin Mountain slide. There are activities for kids of all ages; no one will be left out! Don’t forget to stop by the plantation market for pies, jams and jellies, and candies. And I hope you’ve been getting prepared for the All-You-Can-Carry Pumpkin Challenge for $26.99. The Fall Festival is open weekends September 27 – October 31. Hours of operation are: Friday and Saturday evenings 5-10pm (Pumpkin Patch lighted for night picking!), Saturdays 10am-10pm, Sundays 10am-6pm, and Columbus Day (Monday) 10am-6pm. Admission is $15 a person with discount offered to Senior Citizens, police, fire, rescue, and the Armed Forces. Coupons can be found at local merchants, the Free Lance Star, and by bringing a non-perishable item to be donated to the Fredericksburg Area Food Bank. Please click 




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